Last week we talked about the toxins in our lives, that often go without check. Negative Self talk was one of them. You can read that post here.

Some people aren’t even aware of the negative talk that goes on all day in their own mind. Which isn’t good because it can be very influencing on their daily life. If you are a regular reader, did it surprise you as you were trying to be more aware of your self talk throughout the day, how much of it was negative? If you didn’t read last week’s post and have time to listen to yourself for a week, hopefully, you are already aware of this need for change in your life and are interested in cutting out the negative self talk.

Here are 4 pointers that we can all use to change how we talk to ourselves:

• If negative self talk is linked to negative emotions, this means positive thoughts are linked with positive emotions. So if you hear yourself say something negative- STOP IT and reword it in a positive way:
  1. Instead of “I will always be fat” – REPLACE it with “I have the body I’ve worked for, and I am loving it more and more.”
  2. Instead of “This business is too hard for me” – REPLACE it with “My Business is simple when I take it one step at a time.”
• Bad feelings come from self talk – and they have a way of demanding more attention. Make sure to have positive outlooks around for you to see and focus on.
  1. Read inspiring stories or quotes.
  2. Create a goal or dream board to hang in your home.
  3. Talk to positive people that will focus on the positive with you.
• Change the talk!
  1. Distance yourself from triggers of negativity
  2. Distract yourself by not over-thinking a difficult situation
  3. Call them out! Ask your thoughts, “Is that really true?”  “Is this a story I am telling myself?”
  4. Save the negative emotions for later. Allow a specific timed appointment for negative thoughts, let them play “devils advocate” but make sure they are sticking to what is reality and not allowing them to create their own. Sometimes they can bring a new perspective change or new found motivation – but they must remain in check.
• Walk the walk! Make the effort every day.
  1. Simple test: If you wouldn’t say it to your best friend- why are you saying it to yourself?

Have an outstanding day!

Much success!!

Sara